Enter the conversation with a researched range, a preferred rate, a firm minimum, and a written list of duties and benefits. State your rate calmly, explain the job factors behind it, and pause for the family’s response.
Price the complete position
Count the children, schedule, experience required, driving, travel, specialized care, flexibility, household duties, and benefits. For experienced NYC nannies, The Nanny Whisperers’ community starting ranges are $30–$35 for one child, $36–$40 for two children, and $45 or more for three children.
Prepare three numbers
Know your ideal rate, the reasonable range you can discuss, and the minimum below which the job no longer works for you. Do not reveal the minimum first.
Use a short professional script
Try: “Based on my experience and the schedule and responsibilities we discussed, my rate is $35 per hour. That includes the agreed child-related duties. I’d also like the contract to confirm guaranteed hours, overtime, and a weekly OMNY transit stipend.”
Negotiate the full package
A slightly different hourly rate may feel different when combined with guaranteed hours, paid holidays, vacation, protected time off, a commuting stipend, health contribution, transportation reimbursement, predictable scheduling, and an annual review.
- Guaranteed weekly hours
- Overtime and late time
- Paid vacation and holidays
- Protected time off
- Weekly OMNY/MetroCard stipend
- Workday transportation reimbursement
- Travel and overnight pay
- Annual raise or review
Respond without apologizing
If a family says the number is high, ask which duties or schedule expectations can change. Do not accept an expanded role at a childcare-only rate simply to end an uncomfortable conversation.
Frequently asked questions
When should I discuss the rate?
Confirm a general range early, then finalize it after the schedule, duties, benefits, and number of children are clear.
Should I ask for a MetroCard or OMNY stipend?
Yes. The Nanny Whisperers recommends asking the family to cover the normal commute separately from the hourly rate and reimburse all transportation during work.
Should I accept a lower trial rate?
Only if the written agreement states the exact trial period, regular rate afterward, and what must occur for the increase.
How do I ask for a raise?
Schedule a dedicated review, summarize added value and changed duties, state the new rate, and propose an effective date.
What if the family cannot meet my rate?
You can discuss reducing duties or schedule demands, but you do not have to accept a job that cannot meet your financial needs.
Official information
Laws and agency guidance can change. Review these primary sources: